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Gerunds and Infinitives: Advanced Patterns and the Full System

What this session covers

This final lesson on gerunds and infinitives addresses the most subtle remaining patterns — the ones that catch even advanced learners. The used to / be used to confusion is one of the most consequential errors in English because it reverses the meaning entirely. The negative forms, perfect gerunds, and passive gerunds extend the system into territory that is essential for formal and academic writing. After this session, teachers will have a complete and coherent picture of the gerund-infinitive system.

Personal Reflection

Before you start — think honestly about your own teaching and experience.

Q1
How confident do you feel explaining the difference between 'used to work' (past habit) and 'be used to working' (accustomed to) — and catching student errors with these?
Q2
Which of these have you found challenging — for yourself or your students? (Select all that apply)

Discover the Pattern

Look at the examples. Answer each question before reading the explanation — this is how your students will learn too.

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Read these sentences. Both use 'used to' — but they mean very different things. Can you identify the difference?

She used to live in the north of the country. (before — but not now)
She is used to living in large cities. (she is accustomed to it — it feels normal to her)
I used to teach without electricity. (past habit — no longer)
I am used to teaching without electricity. (it is normal for me — I am accustomed)
He is getting used to waking up early. (he is becoming accustomed — in progress)
In each pair — what is different about the time, the meaning, and the verb form that follows?

'Used to + infinitive' = a past habit or state that no longer exists. It is a modal-like expression about the past. There is no present form of this meaning: you cannot say 'I use to work hard'. It is always past: 'I used to work hard' (but I don't any more). 'Be used to + gerund' = accustomed to — the person finds this normal or familiar because of experience. This is a completely different meaning. The 'to' here is a PREPOSITION — not an infinitive marker. So the verb after it must be -ing (as with all prepositions). 'She is used to living in cities' — 'to' = preposition → gerund follows. 'Get used to + gerund' = to become accustomed to — the process of adapting. 'He is getting used to waking up early' — adapting, in progress. The three forms: used to (past habit), be used to (state of being accustomed), get used to (process of becoming accustomed).'

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Now look at these negative forms. Where exactly does 'not' go — and does it make a difference?

She reminded him not to leave the door open.
Not leaving the door open became a habit eventually.
The teacher asked us not to talk during the test.
Not talking during the test was harder than expected.
She decided not to attend the conference.
She regrets not attending the conference.
Where is 'not' placed in each case? Is the placement different for gerunds and infinitives?

For the negative infinitive: 'not' comes BEFORE 'to'. 'Not to leave' — not 'to not leave'. 'Not to talk'. 'Not to attend'. In standard English, splitting the infinitive with 'not' ('to not leave') does occur in informal contexts but 'not to leave' is the traditional and still widely preferred form, especially in formal writing. For the negative gerund: 'not' comes BEFORE the -ing form. 'Not leaving'. 'Not talking'. 'Not attending'. The same rule: 'not' always comes before the whole verb unit — before 'to' in infinitives, before '-ing' in gerunds. This is simpler than it looks: not + to + infinitive; not + gerund.'

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Now read these more complex gerund forms. What additional information do they add — about time or voice?

I appreciate you telling me so promptly. (you told me — I appreciate it)
I appreciate having been told so promptly. (someone told me — this happened before now)
She was embarrassed about making a mistake. (she made the mistake)
She was embarrassed about having made the mistake. (she made it — and this happened before the embarrassment)
Nobody likes being ignored. (the person is ignored — passive meaning)
She resents being asked the same question repeatedly. (she is asked — passive meaning)
What do 'having + past participle' and 'being + past participle' add to the gerund?

PERFECT GERUND (having + past participle): adds a sense of time — the gerund action happened BEFORE the action of the main verb. 'She was embarrassed about having made the mistake' — the mistake was made before the embarrassment. When the timing is obvious from context, the simple gerund is often enough ('embarrassed about making a mistake'). The perfect gerund is useful in formal writing when the time sequence needs to be made explicit. PASSIVE GERUND (being + past participle): adds passive meaning — the subject of the gerund is receiving the action, not performing it. 'Nobody likes being ignored' — people are ignored (passive), and they don't like it. 'She resents being asked' — she is asked (passive). The passive gerund is extremely common and appears wherever a person experiences something done to them.'

The Pattern — What You Just Discovered

The used to / be used to confusion is one of the most consequential errors in English — they are completely different in meaning. Negative forms place 'not' before the verb unit in both gerunds and infinitives. Perfect gerunds (having done) add a sense of earlier timing. Passive gerunds (being done) add passive meaning. All of these patterns are frequent in formal and academic writing.
Special Rule / Notes

THE USED TO / BE USED TO SYSTEM — a complete comparison:

Used to + infinitive (past habit — no longer):

I used to walk to school. (I walked regularly in the past — I don't now)
She used to be the quietest student in the class. (past state — no longer)
No present form: ✗ I use to walk. → instead say: 'I usually walk' / 'I walk every day'

Be used to + gerund (accustomed — finds it normal):

I am used to walking long distances. (it is normal for me — I am experienced)
She is used to being the quietest. (she is accustomed — it is familiar)
Present: am/is/are used to + -ing
Past: was/were used to + -ing
Future: will be used to + -ing

Get used to + gerund (becoming accustomed — in progress):

I am getting used to walking so much. (adapting — in progress)
She will get used to the noise eventually. (she will adapt in the future)

GERALDS AND INFINITIVES IN FORMAL WRITING — patterns worth knowing:
Subject gerunds are common in formal and academic writing:

Addressing this problem requires investment.
Understanding the local context is essential.
Infinitives of purpose are formal and useful:
In order to achieve this, we must collaborate.
Passive gerunds appear frequently:
Being poorly resourced, the school struggled to retain teachers.
Perfect gerunds mark time sequence clearly in formal reports:
Having completed the baseline survey, the team began the intervention.
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Does the sentence describe a past habit that no longer exists? → used to + infinitive. Does the sentence describe someone who finds something normal/familiar? → be/get used to + gerund (to = preposition here). Is 'to' followed by a verb — and is it 'be/get used to' or 'look forward to' or 'object to'? → that 'to' is a preposition → -ing follows. Is 'not' placed after 'to' in an infinitive? → wrong — not comes before 'to' (not to go, not not to go). Is the gerund expressing being received as an action? → passive gerund: being + past participle.

Common Student Errors

She is used to work in difficult conditions.
She is used to working in difficult conditions.
Why'Be used to' is followed by a gerund (-ing) — 'to' here is a preposition, not an infinitive marker. Always: be/get used to + -ing. 'Is used to working' — not 'is used to work'.
I use to teach in a large city when I was younger.
I used to teach in a large city when I was younger.
Why'Used to' (past habit) has no present tense form. The affirmative is always 'used to' (with -d). 'I use to' is wrong in an affirmative sentence. (In questions and negatives with 'did', the -d disappears: 'Did she use to live here?' / 'She didn't use to like it.')
She told him to not be late again.
She told him not to be late again.
WhyIn a negative infinitive, 'not' comes BEFORE 'to'. 'Not to be' — not 'to not be'. In formal and written English, 'not to be' is strongly preferred. 'To not be' occurs in informal speech but should be avoided in writing.
I appreciate you to tell me so quickly.
I appreciate you telling me so quickly. OR I appreciate your telling me so quickly.
Why'Appreciate' takes a gerund — not an infinitive. 'Appreciate telling' / 'appreciate your telling' (using the possessive before the gerund is the formal option). 'Appreciate you to tell' mixes gerund and infinitive patterns incorrectly.
Nobody enjoys being to ignore in a meeting.
Nobody enjoys being ignored in a meeting.
Why'Being + past participle' is the passive gerund. 'Being ignored' — the person is ignored (passive). 'Being to ignore' is not a standard English structure.

Check Your Understanding — Part 1

Choose the correct form. These involve the most subtle gerund and infinitive patterns — read each sentence carefully before choosing.

She used to ___________ without any teaching materials at all.
After working in rural schools for so long, she is used to ___________ with limited resources.
The students were told ___________ their phones away during the examination.
The teacher resented ___________ to repeat herself three times before students listened.
___________ the same course twice, she found the second year much easier.
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Check Your Understanding — Part 2: Why Is It Wrong?

Each sentence contains an error. Write the correct version and explain why — then reveal the answer.

He is used to wake up at 5am every day to prepare for school.
Write the correct sentence:
Explain why it is wrong:
He is used to waking up at 5am every day to prepare for school.
'Be used to' is followed by a gerund (-ing) — 'to' here is a preposition, not an infinitive marker. 'Is used to waking up' — not 'is used to wake up'. Note: 'to prepare' at the end is correct — this 'to' IS an infinitive marker, expressing purpose.
I use to struggle with classroom management in my first year of teaching.
Write the correct sentence:
Explain why it is wrong:
I used to struggle with classroom management in my first year of teaching.
'Used to' (past habit) is always spelled with -d in affirmative sentences. 'I used to struggle' — not 'I use to struggle'. The -d disappears only in questions and negatives with 'did': 'Did you use to struggle?' / 'I didn't use to struggle much.'
She regrets not to take more professional development opportunities earlier in her career.
Write the correct sentence:
Explain why it is wrong:
She regrets not taking more professional development opportunities earlier in her career.
'Regret + -ing' = looking back with guilt at a past action. 'Regrets not taking' — not 'regrets not to take'. The negative gerund: 'not' before -ing. 'Not taking' is the negative gerund. ('Regret + to + infinitive' is the formal phrase for introducing bad news: 'I regret to inform you...' — different meaning entirely.)
Nobody appreciates to be ignored when they are trying to contribute.
Write the correct sentence:
Explain why it is wrong:
Nobody appreciates being ignored when they are trying to contribute.
'Appreciate' takes a gerund, not an infinitive. And this is a passive meaning — people are ignored (something is done to them). Use the passive gerund: 'being ignored'. 'Nobody appreciates being ignored' — they receive the action of being ignored.

Classroom Teaching Sequence

Use this sequence directly in class — guided discovery, no textbook needed. Tap each step to mark it done.

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STEP 1 — THE USED TO PUZZLE (8 minutes): Write these three sentences on the board:

'I used to live near the school.'
'I am used to living far from school.'
'I am getting used to living so far away.'
Ask: what is different about each one? Give students two minutes to discuss in pairs. Elicit: first = past habit, ended. Second = accustomed, normal. Third = in the process of adapting. Write the three forms clearly. Then ask: why does 'be used to' take -ing? Because 'to' is a preposition — always followed by -ing. Use the word 'towards' as a test: 'she is moving towards being accustomed' — the 'to' points forward like a preposition.
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STEP 2 — USED TO DRILLS (5 minutes): Students produce three sentences about their teaching career using all three forms:

'I used to... (past habit, ended)'
'I am now used to... (accustomed — normal)'
'I am getting used to... (adapting — in progress)'
Share and discuss. Correct any infinitive after 'be used to' immediately.
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STEP 3 — NEGATIVE FORMS (5 minutes): Teach the negative placement rule as a single clear formula:
Negative infinitive: not + TO + base verb ('not to go', 'not to be late')
Negative gerund: not + -ING ('not going', 'not attending')
Drill with five sentences. Students position 'not' correctly. Correct any 'to not' in formal written examples.

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STEP 4 — PASSIVE AND PERFECT GERUNDS (8 minutes): Teach through meaning, not form.
Passive gerund: 'Is the person doing the action or receiving it?' Receiving → being + past participle.

'She hates ___ by her colleagues.' → being interrupted
'Nobody likes ___ for other people's mistakes.' → being blamed
Perfect gerund: 'Did the gerund action happen before the main verb action?' Yes → having + past participle.
'___ the situation, he was able to give better advice.' → Having understood
'She was grateful for ___ selected.' → having been
Drill with four more examples.
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STEP 5 — THE FULL SYSTEM (5 minutes): Ask students to review everything they know about gerunds and infinitives — and organise it into a personal reference map. They work in pairs to produce their own summary with examples. This consolidates the full system and reveals which areas still feel uncertain. Share and address any remaining gaps.

Ready-to-Use Classroom Materials

Use directly in class — copy, adapt, or read aloud. No printing needed.

1 Used To / Be Used To / Get Used To — Three-Way Drill (No materials)
Read each scenario. Students produce all three sentences — one with 'used to', one with 'be used to', and one with 'get used to'. This forces students to contrast all three forms in the same context. Discuss the meaning differences after each set.
Example sentences
Scenario: Teaching large classes. In the past it was unusual. Now it is normal. At first it was hard to adapt.
Used to: I used to teach small groups of only ten students.
Be used to: Now I am used to teaching classes of sixty.
Get used to: It took a year to get used to managing so many students at once.
Scenario: Working without electricity. In the past there was electricity. Now there is none. You are adapting.
Used to: We used to have electricity in the school every day.
Be used to: The students are now used to learning by candlelight.
Get used to: New teachers sometimes struggle to get used to teaching without a projector.
2 Passive Gerund Practice — Who Receives the Action? (No materials)
Read each sentence. Students decide: is the person doing the action or receiving it? If receiving, they produce the correct passive gerund. This develops awareness of voice in gerund phrases, which is important for formal writing.
Example sentences
Nobody likes ___ in the middle of speaking. (they are interrupted — receive action) → being interrupted
She hates ___ that she doesn't know. (someone asks her — she receives) → being asked things
Students resent ___ one rule for themselves and another for others. (the rules are applied to them) → being given
He appreciates ___ by experienced colleagues. (they mentor him — he receives) → being mentored
The teachers objected to ___ with more work without extra pay. (work is given to them) → being burdened
3 Error Hunt — Dictation (No materials)
Dictate these sentences. Students find and correct errors. Some sentences are correct — including some that look unusual but are actually right. Discuss the rule behind each answer.
Example sentences
She is used to working with very limited materials. ✓
I use to find grammar difficult when I first started teaching. ✗ → used to find
He asked the students to not make noise during the presentation. ✗ → not to make (formal preferred)
Nobody appreciates being interrupted by their students. ✓
She regrets not taking the opportunity when it was offered. ✓
Having taught at the school for twenty years, she knew every family in the community. ✓
They are used to work without running water. ✗ → used to working
I appreciate you not mentioning this to anyone else. ✓

Plan Your Next Steps

For each strategy, choose the option that best describes where you are now.

The used to / be used to confusion is a genuine communication problem — teach it explicitly and return to it regularly
Build students' passive gerund awareness through their own reading — point out 'being + past participle' phrases in texts and ask them to identify the passive meaning
Use the perfect gerund in formal writing tasks — it makes time sequences precise and elegant
The full gerund-infinitive system rewards regular practice over a long period — keep returning to it as new verb patterns appear in reading texts
Consider creating a class reference wall chart of gerund vs. infinitive verb groups — add new verbs each week as they appear in authentic English
What is the one change you will make next time you teach this grammar point?

Key Takeaways

1 Used to + infinitive = past habit, no longer (she used to teach there). Be used to + gerund = accustomed to (she is used to teaching there — normal for her). Get used to + gerund = becoming accustomed (she is getting used to teaching there — adapting). The 'to' in 'be/get used to' is a preposition
2 Negative infinitive: not + to + base verb (not to be late). Negative gerund: not + -ing (not attending). 'Not' always goes before the verb unit — never after 'to'
3 Passive gerund: being + past participle (being ignored, being asked, being made). Used when the person receives the action
4 Perfect gerund: having + past participle (having finished, having taught). Used when the gerund action happened before the main verb action — makes time sequence explicit
5 Understanding the gerund-infinitive system fully is one of the highest-value grammar investments a teacher can make — it affects accuracy in nearly every complex sentence in English